Lost My Baby

[sadie11]

I am new to this but I felt I needed to get it off my chest. Yesterday my 9 Year old was struck by a car and was killed. We are all crushed by this sudden tragedy and don't know what to do. Her name was Sadie and I have no idea why she was by the road. I live in Ma and it has snowed a ton and I couldn't let them out in the fenced in backyard because the snow was to deep and she couldn't move. I let them out the front like sooooooo many other times and unfortunately she tempted fate. What makes this even worse is I also have a 4 year old who is now utterly lost without her best friend. I also have two year old son who keeps saying "Sadie Come" and breaks our heart every minute. How do you cope ? Should I get another dog for my family and for my other dog. Layla(4 year old) doesn't know what its like to be alone. Not to mention the person who hit her just kept going. I tried to give her mouth to mouth on the way to the vet but I knew in my heart she was gone. What do we do now?

Thanks For The Ear :( :(

[suzysues]

I am so sorry for you. I don't know what to suggest. We got a puppy straight away when we lost our darling last year, but I was still grieving so hard that I wasn't really ready. But for your son & your other dog, it may be a good idea. Dogs do miss each other & grieve too. Just give each other lots of hugs and please come here to talk to us. A lot of us have lost our beloved pets & know just what you are going through. We can't take away the terrible pain, but we understand it and we will try to help. :)

[sadie11]

Thank You for taking the time trying to help. I just don't know what to do? I appreciate all the kind words and advice

[spindog]

This is a heartbreaker! It is difficult to know what to do in these situations. When we lost our dog we waited for a while but the joy that our GR dog brought us told me that it would have been easier on the children if we would have gotten him sooner. They would come home to an empty house & looked bored & sad all the time. Once we brought Spinner home everyone seemed happy again.
I am sure your son would be thrilled w/ another pet. Being a toddler he will heal much faster. I think you will have to introduce Layla to the dog that you want to bring home first to see if they are compatible.

You just have to follow your heart & decide what you think is best. Again, I am sooooo sorry for your sudden loss. Prayers are w/ you & your family.

Lisa

[coopersmom04]

I am so sorry for your loss :( We lost our German Shepherd in November and we went looking for another puppy right away. We didn't pick up Cooper until January 1st but he has really, really helped mend our hearts. I have two kids aswell (9 and 5) plus another dog, who lost a lot of weight since Ranger passed away. Having another companion really made a difference to her and I can tell she's a lot happier now. We all are!

Cooper will never replace Ranger in our hearts but he is a wonderful addition to our family and we can't imagine our lives without him!

Do what feels right to you. Some people can't imagine having another dog ever. For some it takes a while, and others (like myself) feel the sooner the better!

[johnwa]

I'm sorry to hear about your dog. That's a very tragic story.

[sadie11]

I just wanted to thank everyone for their posts regarding the loss of one of my goldens. Your words were of comfort to me and I really appreciate it. I go back and forth between greif and anger foir which I think will never end. To all your words of comfort and advice I thank you.

Thanks Tim

[goodtim'n]

I also am so very sorry. Check into the golden retriever rescue and see if there is one available. With the ages of your kids and a NEW YOUNG pup, you could have your hands full. See about getting an adult, They are just as wonderful more so grateful for a home.. :dogbark GOOD LUCK

[Harshy]

I'm sorry to hear about your family's loss of Sadie. We understand as we quite suddenly lost our first (part Golden) at 10 1/2 years old. The kids grew up with her and is was difficult for everyone in the family. We waited about 2 months before getting a pup. To me that was long enough to grieve and to think things through and plan what would work best for us. Everyone and each family is different so you will probably get some varied ideas & opinions - but that's what we're here for and hopefully we can help. You will know what's right for you & your family when the time comes. We'll be thinking about all of you.

[Rusty-14]

I am also very sorry. You must be feeling very guilty about it all. I am sure you never thought that would happen. I am sorry that your sweetie is gone in that way.

Most of us I think, lost or loose our pets from some kind of illness. That is bad enough but to be hit by a car and the person never stopped must be driving you crazy. It would me.

Please forgive yourself. We know you didn't mean to do anything to hurt your baby.

[sandybch]

I am sorry to hear about your losing your Sadie. Please don't blame yourself, I'm sure you were a good Mom to Sadie!
I know how you feel........I lost my Golden to cancer this past New Year's Eve. He didn't die in an accident but his illness came on unexpectedly and we had to put him to sleep a few days later, when he had been playing and running just a few short days earlier. I was stunned at the intense grief I felt over this dog that I had for over 10 years. I cried & cried everyday at just the thought of him. I felt guilty that maybe I made the decision to euthanize too soon, maybe I should have done more, even though that just wasn't realistic.
Our first response (my son & I) was to never get a dog again (we only had the one dog) but we soon realized we had so much love to give and the house was so empty and quiet without him that we got a new golden retriever puppy this past week. He doesn't replace the old one, he definitely has his own personality. But I have stopped crying all the time now. A new pup keeps you so busy you barely have time to think.
Your other dog is probably very lonely now and when you feel you're ready I think it will help to get another friend for Layla, your son, and you!
Right after Max died I didn't want to hear it when people said to go out and get another dog but our house has life again. I still miss Max terribly and cry once in a while when I think about him - times like now when I read what happened to you.
I wish you well, it will get better, a little bit each day. Please let me know if you ever need to talk to someone who was just there.
Sandy

[elmac]

I am soo sorry to hear about your loss - I lost my beautiful Corrie last week and I understand your pain. I am sure one day we will begin to cope with our losses but for now I just want to talk about her and look at her pictures. I've put a pic of her on this website it has helped me to know that others know how I feel. It may help you too to let us see your baby. I'm going to make a scrapbook for our Corrie. I sometimes thought that we wouldn't have another dog after Corrie, but we will although its too soon yet for me. The pain of losing her is too raw. But I think that we will have another Golden Retriever when we are ready. Take care.